Fevered personalities

You can pick your friends.
You’re stuck with your coworkers.

People in an office setting are a curious lot. They really are quite the clunky, dysfunctional, construct family. And you end up spending as much or more time with them than you do with your real family. Over the years a sort of pack mentality can form. Self-appointed alphas and betas thumb-wrestle for position among the staff. Newcomers aren’t always treated well. A good chunk of your life goes by around these people, and unfortunately bad energies, unfinished arguments, feelings, and emotions follow you home after your shift…it’s an office funk that doesn’t come off very easily in the shower.

In my longest stretch at a company, I tried, very badly, to set boundaries, to keep work at work. I didn’t like the fact that it’d be the weekend and I was still thinking about different goings-on from the office. At the same time, and to be fair, things from my personal life have a habit of spilling over into my 40hrs. We talk about maintaining a work-life balance but the nature of the working world has things heavily weighted in its favor. It’s why the chorus of the 1981 hit by Loverboy goes “Everybody’s workin’ for the weekend!”

There are going to be all manner of personality types in any job setting. I’ve had my share of issues with bullies at the office. These were the ‘tenured’ employees. They had been with the organization a long time. They did their jobs for the most part, and management never seemed to care much about the fact that they were a massive source of stress and a pain-in-the-ass to their coworkers.

What’s the best way of dealing with these sorts of work relationships? I don’t know. Some people choose to be more overtly confrontational. I’ve never worked anywhere where the management appreciated that sort of thing. You can go to HR. But Human Resources exists to keep the company out of liability. I’ve not found them very helpful in many cases. Their action usually ends in some sort of meeting followed by the employees involved being handed copies of the employee handbook and sent back to their department. I don’t like confrontations. I always try to find some other solution. Most long-term resentments never resolved themselves. Or I should say, we never made any effort to resolve them. Layoffs happened in the Fall of 2012 and those troublesome coworkers are no longer part of my life.

Today’s card: VII of Pentacles

You planted them, they’re growing, but they’re not ripe yet. Keep taking care of them, and the time to pick them will come. It’s okay to rest a bit.

Whatever we’re working on is starting to bear fruit, and we can see it, but it’s not rewarding us yet. Again we have a Grey sky which speaks of holding patterns…things not quite ready.

Today’s card: Knight of Pentacles

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A knight in full armor sits atop a plough/work horse. He is holding a single gold pentacle coin. On the ground behind him we see the rows of a plugged field. There’s a yellow sky,suggesting dawn or morning.

This could be considered a companion to Temperance, which suggests balance and moderation. Here we see that the major work has been done.  The knight is a soldier. He’s used to giving and taking orders. He is also accustomed to diligence, routine, and being methodical.

We need to continue and see the work to completion.

Must've looked depressed

JUST OUT EARTHING

Security made my day! LOL. I was out at lunch doing my stretching/walking routine on the grass across the parking lot. barefoot in grassI generally do this barefoot unless it’s raining. I was carrying my sandals in one hand and looking down the whole time. I have to pay attention and watch where I am stepping. The security guard rolled up in a golf cart and asked me if I was okay. She thought that I might have been feeling bad or something. I just smiled and said, “Yes, I’m good. Thank you.”

This is my earthing exercise when I am away from home. It includes stretching, and conscious deep breathing. I try to do this every day when I’m working. I’m starting to attract a fanbase as some drivers have started honking at me. I’ll be adding some of what I’m learning in my Tai Chi classes.

I’m one of those free-range adults the media has been trying to warn you about.