Thoughts of an American ExPat living in Canada

After the last week with the Orlando shooting I’ve done some thinking; I have sat back and read the comments, watched as many showed their support for the victims and their families; changed profile pictures, prayed, and many who inspired us. I have watched political interests use this topic to provoke fear and propaganda to get votes. Now living in Canada; I am watching the US as a spectator, I am seeing what the rest of the world has been talking about. I see why they think that Americans are a bit insane — I think the rest of the world may be onto something.

Once I stepped outside the crazy (aka moved to Canada), I saw a different perspective, a different lens of the US and why it may be so f’d! What I have realized is that it’s not exactly the fault of Americans; we are bred into a system that has carefully manipulated and brainwashed many into the powerful and inspirational American “dream”, what is the dream? Here’s what the dream means to me:
Money, career, cars, homes, children, marriage, the list goes on. These all encompass what many Americans aspire to achieve to feel a level of self-worth and stature. What they don’t realize is that the: media, corporations, the political system are literally feeding you a ton of bullshit to make money, keep control, give you a sense of security. I’m guessing deep down many of you feel pretty unhappy or unfulfilled? Maybe what I am saying makes no sense to you? Lol My guess is that guns and violence have become the new normal for you; and it doesn’t shock many people now when a mass shooting occurs. That’s a bit crazy, actually a lot crazy. Take a guess how many times in the past 2 1/2 years that I have lived here that I have heard about a mass shooting in Canada? Go ahead, never? Yep, that’s right; it’s only expected in the states. Why? Maybe because we are known for force and military power and creating fear around the world? No one messes with the US, right?

When I moved to Canada 2 years ago, I figured it would be just like the US only much nicer people, and probably tons of maple syrup, hockey and people saying “eh”. Basically, I didn’t think too much about it. How arrogant could one be?! I literally did not know the geography of the country I was moving to or it’s immigration laws. I just figured they will let me in because, “Murica!”. Well, that was a rude awakening, it took me a grueling 2 years to get a work permit and permanent residency. I had to become a Canadian and follow their rules. I was outraged, how could they just not let me in???! Even in my own selfish mind I was appalled and convinced other Canadians of the absurdity too, funny how we can convince ourselves of what we believe to be the truth. It must be because this is how I feel and believe. But now looking back at this all; I would have respected the system and government, I would have explored the regulations and paperwork required. I guess the point of the my long status update is that we aren’t always right, what we think isn’t always true. Open up your mind, think about other perspectives, respect other people, try to live with love. Always trying to be right is exhausting, trying to live the way people want you to live and to their expectations is EXHAUSTING!

Right now watching my American friends and family here’s what I am seeing: I see fear, I see people struggling, division amongst so many, stressed, working their asses off, on so many drugs and caffeine and alcohol to keep the insane cycle going to be “happy” or the illusion at least. I see people chasing happiness and acceptance and seeing their way of living as right and the way. Here’s a random idea: What if you were to detox from social media and technology for a day or even a weekend? What if you actually lived in the moment and present to those around you? What if you for no reason or purpose did something amazing for someone else or even yourself? We need to stop living in fear and we need to stop thinking we are somehow better than everyone else. We are all human, we all have feelings and beliefs and dreams. We need to remove judgement and start respecting others opinions, beliefs, etc. (I am guilty and trying to do my best as well). I am saddened so see so much division, lack of compassion for others, and continued hatred. More shootings are going to occur, more people will die if we can’t change the mindset of ourselves now and start inspiring future humans. When violence happens, it impacts us all; we really need to start changing and evolving, we can do better. Starts with every one doing their part. Instead of changing your profile pic, get out help someone, don’t post it on Facebook… just do it. Talk to someone who is down and feels alone or depressed or different from you. We need to come together and help each other if we want to stop this senseless violence from becoming the new “normal”.

I am an American, I respect and love my country and everyone I encounter, we are all unique and different and can learn something from each other. I know we are so much better than the perception out there in the world . đź’—