This describes me almost perfectly. I’m hard to know, and there are a variety of reasons for that. I have people in my life who occasionally express concern over the fact that I’m single and have mostly been single all my adult life. They’re not offering to introduce romance into our friendship. Sometimes they suggest I talk to some disaffected relative or other friend of theirs. There is a small spark of a desire to change my lifestyle and find a lasting relationship, but I don’t often act on it. So I live life as a single man. I’ve prided myself on being self-sufficient and taking care of myself. I don’t need anyone, nor do I want to, and it may be that I give off that vibe when I’m talking to a woman. Therefore I probably go into a relationship subconsciously sabotaging it. I’ll have to dig into that further.